A couple of weeks ago I went with friends to see a visiting exhibit of Auguste Rodin’s work at the Clark Museum not far from my home in Western Massachusetts.
It was a treat to visit a museum…being in such public places still feels like a novelty these days! Rodin’s sculptures and drawings were captivating, as I wandered from space to space.
At one point I was in a more obscure corner of an exhibition room when a young-ish man, clearly flustered, came over and sat down on a bench. His back was to me. His breathing was labored, and it drew my attention.
What’s happening? I wondered. Is he OK? Scenarios went through my mind. Is he in physical stress? Perhaps he saw something that was emotional for him, and he’s trying to get his bearings. Should I check on him?
I scoped the room. An attendant was nearby. I concluded that if there really is a problem, the attendant would be able to help. So I moved back into my reverie and went to the next sculpture.
On my way out of the exhibit, there was a stir in the foyer. EMTs had arrived. Word passed that someone was in trouble. I knew immediately who it was.
I was relieved to see that help came so quickly, but another feeling came over me, too.
One of a lost opportunity to #care.
I chose not to go over to the man just to check if he was alright.
Nor did I take the initiative to alert the attendant that it looked like someone was in trouble.
It would have been so simple to #respond to the situation. I was disappointed in myself!
I understand such unexpected moments when someone may need help can feel risky.
It’s important to be wise.
But, I’m actually thankful that I felt chagrined. Part of my identity as a leader is the willingness to go out of my way at times, to take initiative when I sense there is a need. To reach out and ask “Are you OK?” “How can I help?”
It is a challenge these days to not feel overwhelmed by all the needs we see, large and small.
And, speaking as a former nonprofit leader who worked in areas of great need, it’s impossible to respond to every one.
But let’s not miss the opportunities that DO give us the chance to be human. To offer empathy, solace, an encouraging word, an #actofkindness. Even something as simple as “Are you OK?”
This incident in the museum suggested I can step up my game!
How about you?